I just read this letter on Yahoo! I’m speechless.

The Doctor Is In — and Hot!
Thu Oct 11, 2:00 AM ET

DEAR MARGO: I work in a male-dominated field and am therefore around lots of men every day. Not until I went to see this physician did I fee what I guess people call chemistry. My husband is an absolutely wonderful man and father. He is supportive, funny, successful and loving. However, I am wildly attracted to this other man.

I made up two reasons to have sham appointments. For the last one I dressed as sexy as I could on a workday, and flirted as best I could without seeming too forward. He was friendly but did not initiate anything.

Then, I saw the physician in the grocery store, and he made it a point to smile at me but not speak. My husband and child were with me.

At any rate, I have a follow-up appointment in about one month. Should I be forward with him? (And if so, how?) I do not want to lose my husband, but I am interested in this other man.

— JENNIFER

And here is the response:

DEAR JEN: You should know that I am a doctor’s wife. Granted, he’s a heart surgeon whose patients are knocked out and under anesthesia, making it difficult for his women patients to make goo-goo eyes at him . . . but I will speak for my sister physicians’ wives.

Try to understand that attraction to doctors is somewhat about their status as healers and seemingly all-wise, and the appeal often involves a fantasy. The balance of power is never equal: The patient is the needy one; the doctor the “fixer.” If this man is a psychiatrist, he could lose his license for beginning an affair with a patient. If he is a general practitioner, it would be unethical at best.

This is not to say that doctors don’t fool around or date patients, just that the “chemistry” you’re feeling may be something else. I would dial back any ideas you have about being forward. My instinct is that this flirt is not reciprocal.

— MARGO, KNOWLEDGEABLY

Where do I start? Margo, this is directed to you. A few notes:

1. You admit that being a heart surgeon, your husband does not get hit on by other women. So why did you mention this? Just needed to talk about yourself. So on that note, congratulations! happy birthday! you are married to a doctor…whoopee!!!
2. Why did you not mention the fact that Jennifer is a terrible wife?
3. Why did you not mention the fact that Jennifer is a terrible mother?

It seems you make light of the fact that she is seriously contemplating marital infidelity. Sure it’s common…but at least recognize that it’s wrong! no? At the end you tell her to ‘dial back’ because the feeling is probably not reciprocal? Why not dial back because it’s wrong!?