I just read this letter on Yahoo! I’m speechless.
The Doctor Is In — and Hot!
Thu Oct 11, 2:00 AM ETDEAR MARGO: I work in a male-dominated field and am therefore around lots of men every day. Not until I went to see this physician did I fee what I guess people call chemistry. My husband is an absolutely wonderful man and father. He is supportive, funny, successful and loving. However, I am wildly attracted to this other man.
I made up two reasons to have sham appointments. For the last one I dressed as sexy as I could on a workday, and flirted as best I could without seeming too forward. He was friendly but did not initiate anything.
Then, I saw the physician in the grocery store, and he made it a point to smile at me but not speak. My husband and child were with me.
At any rate, I have a follow-up appointment in about one month. Should I be forward with him? (And if so, how?) I do not want to lose my husband, but I am interested in this other man.
— JENNIFER
And here is the response:
DEAR JEN: You should know that I am a doctor’s wife. Granted, he’s a heart surgeon whose patients are knocked out and under anesthesia, making it difficult for his women patients to make goo-goo eyes at him . . . but I will speak for my sister physicians’ wives.
Try to understand that attraction to doctors is somewhat about their status as healers and seemingly all-wise, and the appeal often involves a fantasy. The balance of power is never equal: The patient is the needy one; the doctor the “fixer.” If this man is a psychiatrist, he could lose his license for beginning an affair with a patient. If he is a general practitioner, it would be unethical at best.
This is not to say that doctors don’t fool around or date patients, just that the “chemistry” you’re feeling may be something else. I would dial back any ideas you have about being forward. My instinct is that this flirt is not reciprocal.
— MARGO, KNOWLEDGEABLY
Where do I start? Margo, this is directed to you. A few notes:
- You admit that being a heart surgeon, your husband does not get hit on by other women. So why did you mention this? Just needed to talk about yourself. So on that note, congratulations! happy birthday! you are married to a doctor…whoopee!!!
- Why did you not mention the fact that Jennifer is a terrible wife?
- Why did you not mention the fact that Jennifer is a terrible mother?
It seems you make light of the fact that she is seriously contemplating marital infidelity. Sure it’s common…but at least recognize that it’s wrong! no? At the end you tell her to ‘dial back’ because the feeling is probably not reciprocal? Why not dial back because it’s wrong!?
Tags: advice, Outrage, psychology, rant, women
YOU GO SISTER !
tell that bitch off!
Zachariah!
All good points. She says her husband is a wonderful man and husband. That poor bastard being mixed up with her.
This woman is really lying. Her husband is wonderfulman and still she wanted to cheat on him behind his back. I think this woman doesn’t love her husband and is attracted to other men who have power, stature or wealth and the doctor obviously falls within these confines.
What amazes me, though, is the ease with which she discribes her case and the faltering comments she grants herself as if she’s the woman that could sweep any man that she wants.
The fact that this man is ignoring her could be for many reasons: she might be ugly in his eyes; he’s happily married; He’s not wanting to risk his job.
Whether this adventure is pursued to the end, the woman should tell her husband and bear the ultimate consequences of her immature behavior. He also needs to decide whether to stay with her or extricate himself from a self-centered woman who only cares for herself and her desires.
Woma,, you don’t need such a wonderful husband. He needs a woman to adore him for his qualities which are rare nowadays.
Finally, what if the scenario was to be reversed. That’s her husband doing what she is about to do with a demale doctor. What would she do?
Gosh, it’s true that the woman thinking of cheating on her husband is about to make an obvious mistake, but why are you people so mean, callous, rude and disrespectful sounding? Maybe it’s time for you all to go to see a therapist and work on your own anger issues. Or…seek advice on how you can help yourselves.
Hey, take the money and run. I’m sure on his salary you could hire an excuse to divorce him, and run off with most of it. You can do all the complaining to nice young theraputic men you want. Regrett nothing that makes you smile, laugh, or cry.